A cloud which bytes

I had a very surreal moment the other day when my mum told me that a facebook game was and I quote a " time bandit - it steals my time "

The next day a good friend of mine who is older than me asked me if I could fix it so that she no longer got candy crush requests from an old friend. " I don't want to upset her but I get 20 of the darn things a day. Can you stop her sending them.  It is driving me crazy"

I was born not with a metaphorical spoon in my mouth but a computer mouse. Let me explain my dad writes software and my grandad  well he was a electrical engineer and worked for the guy who invented TV. My mum taught first little kids then before she got sick computers. I do not remember a time in my life twenty odd years when I didn't know how to use a computer.

My mum remembers her first television set arriving my dad does not as grandad built one for his bride to watch the coronation in the 1950s.
In the last 100 years technology moves on so fast even I one of the oldest digital natives am struggling to keep up- I remember friends getting computers and wondering why it was such a big deal as don't all daddy's build them from scratch?

It leaves the question of in an increasingly digital age where my photos sync to the cloud and I can scribble on my keypad and it writes words. Are we shutting out our elders and not allowing us to learn things you can't google.

And what about them like my Nana who knows how to do some things but has no idea how the rest work.  Or my lovely mum who is fighting a battle new that I have for years " I love the game but it is stealing my life "  I know that honestly I feel that progress for the sake of progress it's no progress at all. I know that the black mirror has corrupted our society. But it draws you back as I write this in scribbles. Again and again.

I don't know a world in which all communication is not easy and desirable. I know that I have all the say in what I see and from whom. And I know that many older people wish for a phone free social time. But the truth is I am often alone with my phone in pocket in a room full of my peers.

Because technology has its place and it has its uses but people matter more than screens and contact this second so that I can fully live in the moment. Who taught me that well a computer teacher and a software engineer... My parents.

Why feminists should take a leaf out of their own book.

A few days ago I read an article in which Kaley Cuoco of the big bang theory stated that amongst other things she loved to look after her man.

As you can imagine every feminist worth their salt came up with a blog post on how she was corrupted by the establishment or something like that. That she betrayed women kind.

But in so doing they have totally missed it.  Kaley Cuoco like millions of women before her was expressing her femininity. This is not a woman cooped up in a house the slave of a society which does not allow for her to be fully herself.  This is a wealthy actress who travels the world and commands the screen in a show that is loved all over the world.  She does not need a man to complete her  she is successful in her own right. 

That is what true  feminism boils down to letting everyone be themselves and not letting gender hinder them from opportunity or living life to the fullest.

That is why Jesus came for us to have life to the fullest and not be hindered in being fully who we were created to be. He was (and is) a feminist. He desires for all to be all that they were made to.

If Kaley or anyone else's expression of their true heart and femininity is to cook their husbands dinner, do his laundry and let him mow the lawn or build the deck. It doesn't stop others burning their bra and  being CEO of a cooperation. 
So feminists lay down your pens or tablets and see that expressions of Femininty are as diverse as women themselves. Being a feminist should mean you should rejoice over women not following the 'done' thing but being wholly themselves. In our culture it is no longer acceptable to say you enjoy looking after your husband and why should it be that way because for millions of women educated,  beautiful and successful who  enjoy leaving their jobs for raising their kids or love nothing better than to cook their husbands favorite dinner.  And men who love to spend time at their daughters ballet recital and  enjoy cooking too.